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Thank you for investing in The Movement School of Ministry! This year could not happen without your involvement and support of your student. I’m confident in the midst of pouring into a students life, the Lord has amazing plans for you and your family through the process.

As a spiritual development program, MSM, is committed to seeing people walk into the fullness of their identity as Sons and Daughters of a living God, become equipped with the supernatural power of God and released to the platforms the Lord is calling them into. Our desire is throughout this year each student will Know and Understand the love of God, Receive and Become the fullness of your identity in Christ, to then Move and Release all you have been given in Christ Jesus.

Our program is designed to see students reach the end of themselves, walk into healing and wholeness, find God in powerful ways, and grow in intimacy along the way; your daily role is key for this process. Our investment is in the students but we all get blessed along the journey. We pray as you lead and disciple your student, God would draw you deeper, challenge you daily, and encounter you in powerful ways each and every day. 

Thank you again for your investment in MSM and in your students life. I cannot wait to see the testimonies and transformation that will come from this year. 

Please read through the rest of the handbook and begin to pray for your student, contact the MSM staff with any questions or prayer needs.

I look forward to journeying through this year with you.

Halie

MSM Director 

 


THE PROGRAM

WHAT IS MSM?

MSM is a spiritual development program committed to seeing people walk into the fullness of their identity as Sons and Daughters of a living God, become equipped with the supernatural power of God and released to the platforms the Lord is calling them into.

Our vision is to see generations rise up who understands, receives and overflows with the true and perfect love of God, and walks in the power of The Holy Spirit ministering in every arena they enter

MSM emphasizes the Presence of God and a 3-part learning structure where students will Know and Understand, Receive and Become, to then Move and Release what they’ve learned.

 

Know and Understand Colossians 3:1-3: Where Identity is learned  

Through Biblical Studies courses at the Movement Degree Program and daily instruction from pastors and leaders within our church family and community, students will be directed to the Word to learn and understand their kingdom identity, God’s character and nature, principles of discipleship and leadership, and practical ways of ministering.

 

Receive and Become Ephesians 4:22-24: Where Identity ignites transformation

Through extended times of worship, devotionals, and individual discipleship, students spend hours immersed and focused on the pursuit of the transformative presence of God. Students learn to allow revelation and knowledge to soak into their hearts to ignite transformation to all areas of life.

 

Move and Release Matthew 28:16-20: Where transformation is walked out  

Through service, church internship, outreach, and international missions, students learn to take the overflow of transformation and the power of Holy Spirit to become the hands and feet of Jesus. During the processes students learn job skills, develop individual gifts and talents, and grow in confidence to minister in a variety of environments. 

 

YEAR 1: JOURNEY TO IDENTITY AND SONSHIP

Students embark into a year immersed in the presence of God pursuing intimacy and wholeness. Weekly, students are exposed to atmospheres of encounter through worship, study, reading, and teaching. Students step away from the everyday hinderances to pursue full immersion in the life of Jesus and our call to live set apart and holy lives.

  • Know and walk in the fullness of your identity in Christ
  • Grow in intimacy with The Father daily encountering His transforming love
  • Learn to study the word of God receiving personal revelation and intimacy
  • Learn to see and live from a perspective of Heaven to see God fulfill natural and spiritual needs 
  • Live a laid-down life walking with a servant's heart to serve with love, presence and power 
  • Learn to live as salt and light, overflowing with the presence of God, and sharing the gospel and personal testimony by word and action everywhere you go
  • Learn to walk with sensitivity to the Holy Spirit, responding to God's voice at all moments
  • Walk out confident of personal identity and assurance of sonship 

 

YEAR 2: JOURNEY TO DISCIPLESHIP AND ANOINTING

Students continue in their pursuit of personal identity and growth while taking ownership of the process. They move into becoming fully devoted disciples of Christ. Students begin to take on larger roles in internship and leadership while receiving more personalized discipleship in their unique gifts and callings.

  • Take transformation and intimacy to move into living in overflow 
  • Take ownership of your personal walk and growth 
  • Learn to live and model a supernaturally natural lifestyle 
  • Continue growing in your identity as a disciple of Jesus Christ fully equipped for life and ministry 
  • Continue identifying and growing in personal gifts, talents and callings 
  • Learning how to lead from a place of anointing 
  • Deepen your sensitivity to the Holy Spirit, responding to God’s voice and walking in abandoned obedience
  • Develop leadership, life and job skills through focused time in one area of ministry 
  • Walk out understanding what it means to live as a fully devoted disciple equipped to make disciples 

 

YEAR 3: JOURNEY TO BECOME EQUIPPED AND RELEASED

Students move into full-time ministry internships while taking full ownership of their relationship with God. They work closely with a staff member to assist in running ministries, leading teams, developing programs, and creating disciples. Students also focus on the completion of their Bachelors of Arts in Applied Theology.

  • Take full ownership of personal walk and growth with God
  • Live a life of overflow
  • Learn to manage life, education and ministry while maintaining a strong and developing relationship with God
  • Deepen your understanding of living as a disciple and making disciples
  • Live and model a supernaturally natural lifestyle 
  • Confidently minister from anointing in and out of church context 
  • Continue developing leadership, life and job skills through oversight and leadership opportunities in a specific area of ministry
  • Walk out equipped for release into the platform to which The Lord has called you into 

 

WHAT DO STUDENTS NEED TO START MSM? 

Passport : Students take two international trips during their time in MSM, both require a passport, not just an international I.D. card. Passports must be valid through January 2019 with two free pages available. 

Computer/ tablet: Students use these devices for academic assignments, research, and internship activities. Devices will need access to Microsoft Word, Excel, and the Internet.

Car/ car insurance: Students are required to have reliable transportation to and from MSM activities. Students must maintain registration and insurance. If students will be driving for any MSM programing releases must be signed prior to the event. 

Health insurance: Students are responsible for their own health insurance and are required to have insurance during MSM. Please notify MSM staff of any medical problems or chronic conditions. 

 

MSM CURRICULUM

Students participate in the Movement Degree Program. All students enroll and are required to submit all necessary paperwork. The application fee is included in MSM tuition, however, students are responsible for all other expenses, including transcript and testing. MSM staff will provide instructions and assistance in this enrollment process.

 

STUDENT LIFE

 

STUDENT HOUSING

Each student is placed with a Host Family during the MSM year. These Host Families are members of our church, have committed to the guidelines and requirements of Host Homes and are devoted to providing a safe and caring environment for our students. Host Homes provide room and board, oversight and care, and discipleship. They are not compensated, but do this as an offering to the Lord.

Each housing situation is unique and offers its own blessings and challenges. Some students will have a private bed and bath while others will share space with family members. Prayerful consideration is used in the placement of each student to ensure they’re placed in the best environment for their needs.

Host Families are a huge blessing to students, MSM, and our church and the students become a blessing back to the Host Families. Students aren’t guests in the home, but are apart of the family and participate in all aspects of home life, including family gatherings and chores. While being involved in your Host Families life is important, we also encourage you to stay connected with your families throughout the year. 

 

MENTORSHIP

Each student receives a mentor at the start of the program. Mentors have been playfully chosen and paired with each student. Mentors are in place to be a safe place for students to share, process, remain accountable, and learn. Mentor meetings occur weekly, are considered apart of students weekly schedule, and should be scheduled outside normal MSM hours, Fridays, or Saturdays.

 

WEEKLY SCHEDULE

MSM is a fast-paced, rigorous, program and we believe students will get out of MSM what they put in; this also applies to off hours and weekends. By giving God the year, He gets everyday, even days leadership hasn't structured and planned. Rest, fun, exercise, and sleep are all key ingredients to a successful year. Students are responsible for managing their weeks and commitments outside of required MSM events.

Each week is full of outside opportunities to serve and learn in our church family and in the community, but we ask students to ensure they’re taking care of their commitments before filling their schedule with extra curricular activities. MSM leadership will keep students up to date on any changes to schedules and extra events.

Generally, student hours are Sunday 7-1, Monday-Thursday 8-5, and Logos classes Tuesday nights 630-9. Occasionally, students will have activities fall outside typical hours. Any outside event will go into the MSM Google Calendar and sent out in the weekly emails. 

All students, Home homes, and Mentors will have access to the website calendar. All important dates will be posted and available throughout the year. In addition, the MSM Director will send out monthly reminders through email with important information and dates.  

 

LIFESTYLE STANDARDS

We believe every Christian is called to live a life above reproach to better be a minister of the gospel. Therefore, we ask all MSM students to abstain from all immoral, illegal and unethical activities for the duration of MSM; this includes all vacations, weekends, and other off days. As a believer you’re a representation of Jesus to the world and by enrolling in MSM you become a leader in our church; both call students to a higher standard of holiness and accountability.

 

ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS

Students are not required to be single during their year in MSM. If a student isn't in a committed relationship prior to entering into MSM, we ask students to not pursue romantic relationships. If students are in a committed relationship, prior to entering into MSM, we ask each student to evaluate and pray over their relationship's health and to create healthy boundaries. Our heart is for each student to place priority and focus on all God is calling them into. Relationship require a large amount of time and emotional investment; during MSM we encourage students to make their relationship with the Lord, Host Homes, Mentors, and fellow students their focus. MSM leadership is available to help students walk through this process. 

 

PUNCTUALITY AND ATTENDANCE

We ask students to arrive on time or early to all MSM events, complete assignments on time, and keep their commitments. Arriving on time shows respect and value to the program, leadership, and other students in MSM. 

If there’s an emergency, students should contact the MSM Director as well as any others who may be affected be their tardiness or absence as soon as possible- Host Families, teachers, ministry leaders, mentors, etc. 

Non-emergent appointments and errands should be scheduled during off-hours and weekends. Planned absences extending 24 hours should be cleared through the MSM Director in advance. We ask you to plan family trips on assigned vacations; all planned vacations are listed under the MSM Yearly Schedule and will also be shared through Google Calendar. 

Absence policy: Students can miss up to 40 hours of mandatory MSM events without having to make up missed hours. If students go over 40 hours of absence they will be required to make up hour for hour the activities they’ve missed. Students may only make up 40 hours. Students who miss beyond the 40 free hours and the 40 make up hours will be under review for dismissal from MSM.   

 

USE OF TIME ON CAMPUS

We ask students to remain aware and sensitive to the work environment while on campus. At anytime during the day there may be other groups meeting, sensitive/confidential phone calls, leadership at work, etc. Students work with and among our staff each day but we ask students to stay focused on their tasks and to keep interruptions to a minimum. We value our students having access to the entire staff; students may plan meetings, with any staff member, in advance and during MSM off hours.We also ask students to limit their phone use, during MSM activities, to stay engaged and focused to get the most out of the activities.

 

CURFEW

Sunday- Thursday nights curfew is 10:30pm, Friday-Saturday nights curfew is 11:30pm. Curfews are in place to help students manage priorities of Host Family relationships, homework, rest, and respecting the home they live. Adjustments to curfew should be cleared in advance and should be exceptions not a normal occurrence. In the case of an emergency, contact Host Families as soon as possible to let them know the situation and when they should expect you home. 

 

CARS AND TRANSPORTATION

All students provide their own transportation, car expenses/repairs, and insurance for the duration of the MSM program. Students are expected to follow all laws when driving. Waivers will be required if you will be driving other students to outreaches, retreats, or other off-site meetings. 

 

FREE TIMES

Students are free to spend off hours as they please, we do have a few suggestions to help support your journey through the year. Taking care of your body is very important; exercise, rest, and fun are essential for whole body health and we encourage students to manage their weeks to incorporate each area.What we consume influences our hearts and spirits, therefore, we ask students to use sound judgment and spiritual maturity in all media and entertainment areas.

 

HOST HOME LIVING

Host Home Living:

  • Living with a Host Family is an honor and privilege
  • Be a blessing to their Host Families
  • Be flexible and teachable at all times
  • Communicate schedules, needs, problems, etc.
  • Maintain living areas with excellence 
  • Participate in house chores, about 2-3 hours each week
  • Be in relationship with the family not treating the home as a hotel
  • Uphold the unique standards set in place by Host Families 

General Guidelines:

  • Required to move into their Host Homes during the designated dates
  • Remain sensitive and considerate to how the Host Family operates remaining flexible and teachable
  • Dress modestly when in public areas of the home
  • Mindful of turning off lights/televisions and locking doors
  • Have approval, in advance, for house guests, overnighters, and spending the night outside of the home
  • Maintenance of vehicles, students are responsible for repairs and gas
  • Communicate about activities and events outside of typical MSM schedule
  • Attend weekly family dinners with Host Homes

Time Guidelines:

  • Abide by curfews, Sunday-Thursday 10:30pm, Friday-Saturday 11:30pm. Adjusted curfews time should be rare and need to be approved at least 24 hours in advance
  • Communicate with your Host Home when you will be home and meals you’ll be home
  • Weekly commitment to family time. We ask you to participate in one family dinner each week

Home Guidelines:

  • Have sensitivity to volume while others are asleep in the home, this includes music, TV, kitchen, and leaving/arriving home
  • Remain sensitive to communally used items, cleaning up after cooking/eating, use of TV, keeping personal items in your room, etc. 
  • Discuss kitchen etiquette with your Host Home. You’ll follow their house rules for meals and snacks
  • Participate in chores around the home, taking care of assigned chores or helping during family cleaning times
  • Maintenance of your living areas and laundry 

 

MISSIONS INFORMATION

The fall mission is a weekend trip with our Mexico Missions Team. This trip is a one-night trip to the outskirts of Tijuana where we will minister with local pastors and the community they’re working to reach. Our team will participate in community building projects and door-to-door ministry.  The cost for this trip is included in student tuition.

For the spring mission trip we partner with Iris Global Ministries at their bases world-wide. This trip involves a lot of preparation financially, emotionally and spiritually. Students will begin fundraising for this trip in the first semester of MSM. Financial deadlines will be given along the way to ensure each student is fully funded in time for the purchase of flights and other large expenses.  Vaccinations and malaria medication are required to go on this mission trip. Students are responsible for acquiring all vaccinations and medications on their own time.

 

MEDICAL POLICY

Should an injury occur on church grounds or while traveling to and from a scheduled MSM event students are covered by general church liability. It is recommended for students to have an emergency plan, with finances set aside, for any unexpected illnesses or injuries. All non-emergent appointments should be scheduled during student’s free time. 

Students are responsible for all required vaccinations and medications for mission trip destinations. A list of required and recommended vaccinations will be provided. 

 

DISMISSAL POLICY

Our goal is for students to complete their MSM year with excellence and victory. Students who habitually violate MSM guidelines, or the violation was significant, will be considered for dismissal from MSM. Students will receive written notice of suspensions, academic probation, and potential dismissal from MSM. Dismissal is a last resort and can result in the loss of tuition. Refer to “Finances” for tuition information. 

 

STATEMENT OF NONDISCRIMINATION

In compliance with federal state regulations, The Movement School of Ministry admits students of any race, gender, color, national and ethnic origin, disability, status as a veteran or any other characteristic protected by law to all rights, privileges and activities to students at MSM. 

 

HOST HOMES

WHAT ARE MSM HOST HOMES?

Our Host Families are an incredible blessing to the students, the program and theMovement. They provide students with room and board, including breakfast, lunch and dinner. Host Homes become a safe haven for students as they go through the rigorous MSM year while providing support practically, emotionally and spiritually. Living in a safe and neutral environment, which they may not have with their family, gives students the ability to focus on all the Lord is leading them into during MSM.  

 

WHAT IS EXPECTED OF A MSM HOST HOME?

Taking in an MSM student is a huge commitment. You are adding another adult member to your family with the following expectations:

1. Host Homes provide room and board in a safe environment

Room and board does not mean luxury resort living, but includes them integrating into your lifestyle. This can look like them sharing a bedroom or bathroom with other family members and eating what you eat. Host Families don’t cater to the students but invite them to be involved in family life, meals, and activities.  Host Homes are expected to be safe. Safe does not mean perfect but a home with adults who serve Jesus, are free from life-hindering addictions, and are transparent and accountable to areas of challenge and struggle. 

2. Host Families welcome a young adult into their lives

Hosting a student is more than providing a place to live and food to eat. Host Families have a unique role in MSM, they participate in accountability, prayer, processing areas of challenge and growth, and sharing family traditions. 

3. Host Families commit to the discipleship of a student

The process of welcoming a student into your home looks different for each family and different for each student. During this time we ask you to be patient with the process, operating in love, and persistent with the standards of MSM and the standards of your home. Starting strong and staying consistent will bring the best adjustment for everyone. As students enter your home they will learn, grow and be challenged by a new lifestyle, this is the point. We value Host Homes as a challenge of adaptability.

Host Homes also become a key role in students’ discipleship. We ask all your leading with the students be done in love and with sensitivity to Holy Spirit as each day requires something new to see the student succeed. We value seeking the Lord in each step when leading and discipling students as some days require tough love and others grace and mercy.  Many students come from unsafe and unhealthy families and unhealthy habits; and their process to healing is a journey which continues throughout the year. We encounter ups and downs in this process but with committed support around each student we see them arrive at the end of the program stronger and healthier than when they began. 

4. Host Families work alongside MSM staff

The discipleship of each student is a commitment of the whole church. The Movement staff, mentors, host homes, and congregation work together to impact the lives of each student and our goal is to have open communication. Matters appearing small could be the key to unlock growth in the students; therefore, we encourage Host Families to share about conflicts in the home, challenges they observe in their student, and any details they feel prompted by the Holy Spirit to communicate. 

 

HOST FAMILY EVALUATIONS

Monthly, the MSM Director will connect with Host Homes to see how home life is going. Our heart is to support you in the mentorship and discipleship of your student. This is the time to share wins and challenges you’ve experienced with your student, talk through strategies to encourage students to progress in their growth, and spend time in prayer over families and students. While we intentionally check in monthly, MSM Staff is always available to support in any way we can throughout the year, never hesitate to call or email with any questions, conflicts or praise reports throughout the program. 

 

HOST FAMILY MEETINGS

During the course of the year Host Homes attend three informational gatherings where we check in, share wins and challenges, and share program information for the next season. Host Families are also invited to attend the MSM Graduation at the end of the year.

Dates:

  • Orientation August 26th, 2017 
  • Winter Meeting January 14th 2018
  • Spring Meeting April 8th 2018 
  • MSM Graduation June 24th 2018

 

HELPING YOUR STUDENT ADAPT

To help smooth over the transition of inviting a student into your home we ask Host Families to talk as a family over the areas below to help you prepare and set your student up for success. 

Before your student moves in:

  • Sit as a couple and decide these details: 
    • Communication: who should they contact on a regular basis
    • House Rules: what’s your expectation for them with coming and going, locking up, use of the kitchen and bathrooms, where to park, things they can and cannot use, etc. 
    • Establish Chores: what are their jobs weekly and when they should be complete
    • Establish Family Night: have a few times for the week ready so the students can choose based on their commitments in and out of MSM 
  • Talk and pray with your whole family about welcoming the student into your home
  • Have their space ready for them before they arrive to move in

When the student moves in:

  • Start with relationship. Plan to have a welcoming family dinner one of their first nights in the home. Take this time to get to know them personally, show them around the house, and get more comfortable communicating and sharing with each other
  • Plan a time to talk details/ have a home orientation; both Host Parents should be present. Go over communication, house rules, chores, and family time. This is a lot of information all at one time and there will still be an adjustment and many gentle reminders before they’re in the new routine of your home. Remember to remain patient and persistent. 

 

FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS

Q:    We’re not a perfect family. Is that OK?

A:    There are no perfect families and how you work through family problems, the small and logistical as well as the large and painful, will be a great source of Godly training for your student. 

 

Q:    What are the student’s financial responsibilities in the home?

A:    They are responsible to provide for their own transportation, auto insurance, medical care, toiletries, and personal items. Host Families are only asked to provide room and board; this includes availability to have three meals a day.

 

Q:    At what point do I notify the MSM staff about concerns I have regarding my student? 

A:    No concern is too insignificant to discuss with leadership. Notify MSM staff whenever you feel it is necessary to pass along information or want to seek support or advice. The MSM Director is your first point of contact—but our entire MSM staff is here to assist you.

 

Q:    Is it okay to leave my student alone if we leave town?

A:    When going out of town, please inform the MSM staff. We will make arrangements to have your student stay in another student’s home while you’re away. Also, if the mother leaves overnight, and the student is a woman, we ask the student stay with another family. The reverse would be true of a young man staying in the home when the father is absent.

 

Q:    How should we help a student who is ill?

A:    When the Lord is dealing strongly with a student, he or she may be tempted to stay home with little cause. Often we can help most by praying for the student and encouraging him or her to “Get going!” If the student has a fever, or other flu-like symptoms, he or she should stay home and rest. Call the MSM Director if your student has more serious physical complaints or if you have any questions.

 

Q:    Can students move into our home before the MSM year begins?

A:    Sometimes students request a move-in date prior to the first day of an MSM year. Our policy is for students to not move in to their Host Home more than three days prior to our program start date. If a student requests early move-in, but the Host Family will not be ready to them until the program start date, our staff will find them other housing for up to three days.

 

Q:    Can I assign baby-sitting as a chore for my student?

A:    Yes, baby-sitting can be apart of their weekly chores, as long as it falls within the time guidelines of 2-3 hours weekly.  We do discourage you from relying heavily on your student due to their very busy schedule and need time to do homework, fulfill their obligations to the program and spend time with you as a family.

 

Q:    Is it OK to have alcohol in our home?

A:    We ask all Host Families to exhibit great sensitivity in this matter. Some students may have struggled with alcohol abuse in their past, or have been hurt by the alcohol abuse of others. We ask Host Parents have a conversation with their student about his or her history with alcohol during you home orientation. If a student would struggle with alcohol being in his or her Host Home, we ask Host Parents to honor their student by removing all alcohol from their home while they are hosting this student.

 

INSIGHTS FROM OTHER HOST FAMILIES

1.    Tell your MSM student they are part of your family for the length of the program. Welcome them and let them clearly know your expectations.

2.    Remember, communication with your student takes practice. It takes time for them to trust you. 

3.    Be direct, but loving, when speaking with your student. They need frequent communication.

4.    Ask your student how they best receive instruction and correction from you. Try not to catch them “off guard” with criticism. 

5.    Allow your student to be honest, but do not allow complaining or whining. The MSM program is challenging, but the leadership is very careful with their schedules.

6.    Allow your student to be honest about their past, feelings, trials, etc. without judging them or always “having the answers.”

7.    Pray with your student.

8.    Let them get to know you, both the good and the bad.

9.    Have fun with your student. Start simple traditions, like milkshakes after an evening service, playing board games on Sunday evenings, etc. Be creative.

10.    Speak positively to others about your student.

11.    Don’t assume students already have Christ-like standards in their lives.

12.    It’s O.K. to be firm from day one.

13.    It’s O.K. to bring loving discipline to the student when needed.

14.    Schedule weekly family meetings to help iron out difficulties.

 

What has been the greatest blessing of being a Host Family?

1.    Seeing God change and mature a young Christian.

2.    Watching God shape and mold a student and at the same time seeing God shape and mold us, the Host Parents.

3.    Seeing our student change and walk in God’s anointing.

4.    Being exposed to the blessings and the challenges of someone being changed by the Lord.

5.    Being able to encourage and support our student.

6.    Having someone clean the bathroom on Saturday.

7.    Being able to share our home and have our kids learn to love a big sister.

8.    Seeing the Lord use our student to speak into my life.

9.    Knowing we are helping someone fulfill his or her destiny in the Lord.

 

What has been the greatest challenge of being a Host Family?

1.    Having patience.

2.    Trying not to interfere with what is going on, yet being supportive and encouraging.

3.    Confrontation with the students is the hardest challenge.

4.    To openly communicate and get our student to open up to us.

5.    To not butt in and try to protect our student from God working in him.

6.    Finding time for relating and fellowship.

7.    As a parent, I had to change.

8.    Learning to share my possessions, my food and my “space.”

9.    Treating them like part of the family and not a houseguest.

10.    Meeting the emotional needs of a young adult as compared to our younger children.

 

What has been the biggest change in your family due to housing an MSM student?

1.    We have all grown because of what we have seen and experienced with our student.

2.    Much more communication going on.

3.    A neater house with less work for me.

4.    As a parent, I pray more.

5.    Very little change. MSM has a very busy schedule and so do we.

6.    Our children are learning, sharing and giving.

 

What would you tell your friends who are considering being a Host Family?

1.    Do it! It will be well worth the cost and time.

2.    Make sure you really pray about it first. If God calls you to be a Host Family, He will provide.

3.    It’s a great opportunity to serve. It is not easy, but it is worth it.

4.    It will stretch you.

5.    The challenges are nothing compared to the blessing.

6.    Don’t hesitate. Do it. You will learn also.

7.    It is worth the investment. You cannot afford not to!

8.    It’s a great experience I feel brings you closer in your relationship to God.

9.    I love being a Host Parent. I feel as if I too am going through the MSM program. It helps our family to stay focused.

 

THE IMPORTANCE OF SHARING EXPECTATIONS

Where do frustrations come from? Frustrations always grow from unspoken and unmet expectations! And the truth is we have expectations about everything: how quickly our coffee should be served, our remote control should work when we press a button, we’ll be remembered on our birthday, etc. When our expectations go unmet, it’s certain our frustrations will grow.

When an MSM student enters your home, you will have certain expectations of this young adult. If a student falls short of your expectations, then your frustration level will certainly increase. While some of that is probably going to happen simply because we are working with young adults (most of whom have never lived on their own or in another’s home before), the frustration level can be turned WAY down if you as the Host Parents will clearly share your expectations with your student.

We have begun this “expectation sharing” process for you in the Student Handbook. Students have been given clear instruction, on what the MSM program expects from them, as they are living with a Host Family. While our list is a good start, there are many other nuances which are unique to you and your home environment need to be communicated to your student so they can succeed in your home.

Here are several ideas to help you think through what expectations you should communicate to your student.

1.  Whom should the student call if they have a change in plans or schedule?

2.  What chores should the student plan to complete on a daily or weekly basis?

3.  Is there a “certain way” you prefer something to be done?

4.  How do you prefer to be addressed (Mr. Smith? Tom?)

5.  Are there certain “quiet times” of which the student should be aware?

6.  Is there a particular place the student should park their vehicle?

7.  Is there a particular day or evening the student should reserve for “family time?”

8.  What are your entertainment guidelines the student needs to respect?

9.  What are the guidelines for your kitchen and for eating certain foods?

Remember your student has a set of expectations about you as well. It would be wise to help draw from your student what their expectations are, so they can be addressed and modified as needed to fit with reality.

 

SUGGESTIONS FOR STUDENT CHORES

  • Sweep the kitchen, porch or driveway
  • Spot clean the carpet
  • Run to the grocery store
  • Clear the table
  • Scrub the toilets
  • Dust the furniture
  • Vacuum
  • Clean the windows and sliding doors
  • Wash the inside of the oven and microwave
  • Take out the garbage / recycling
  • Load or unload the dishwasher
  • Baby-sitting the kids
  • Scrub the waste baskets and garbage cans
  • Scrub the bathtubs and showers
  • Replace burned-out light bulbs
  • Set out the garbage cans for pick-up
  • Return the garbage cans after pick-up
  • Weed the flowerbeds and garden
  • Clean and organize the garage
  • Wash and vacuum the cars
  • Rake the leaves
  • Put away the groceries
  • Pick up the mail
  • Clean out the refrigerator    
  • Fold the laundry
  • Wash the dog
  • Clean the gutters
  • Hang the Christmas lights
  • Paint a room
  • Mow the yard

 

HOW TO STAY UP-TO-DATE AND CONNECTED

Weekly, MSM has many layers to stay engaged in. Our heart is for everyone involved in the program to stay on the same page, connected, and in the know about the happenings in MSM and the student’s lives. Host Homes, Mentors, and Students have access to the MSM website. This will be the best place to get upcoming events, weekly themes, current reading and curriculum, along with important information throughout the year. 

Host Homes and Mentors will also receive emails on the 1st of each month with updates and important information. MSM Staff will also connect monthly with each Host Home and Mentor to hear how everyone is doing. Although we will connect on a monthly basis, MSM Staff is always available, by phone or email, for any conflicts you’re having throughout the month.